Dec 26, 2012

Going Home




We went “home” for Christmas.  My dad has been gone for eighteen years and it’s been 7 years since my mom died, but my sister and her husband still live in the hometown so we go “home” for Christmas. 


Growing up, I lived in just two houses.  It’s funny, but since I graduated from high school many, many years ago and moved away, I bet I have lived in a dozen or more places.  Granted, John and I have been here since 1992, but still, there were a lot of homes in between.  But growing up, just two.  The 3rd Street house and the big 2nd Street house.


I know they say you can’t go home again
I just had to come back one last time
Ma’am I know you don’t know me from Adam
But these handprints on the front steps are mine


The first was a tiny 2 bedroom house that Mom and Dad bought shortly after they were married.  The thing I remember most about living there was Dad having sand delivered about every spring so we would have a new sand pile.  I am sure that sand delivery was worth every penny to my mom as we would spend morning to night digging tunnels and roads and homes for our Barbie dolls in the sand while my brother would plow through with this Tonka trucks. 




I also remember learning to ride my bike down the sidewalk in front of this home; still recall the places where the pavement was broken up or where we could get some air under our tires.  Still almost fifty years later, I could name you all the neighbors on 3rd Street; mostly now long gone, too.  Sitting in that front room, I recall my mom watching President Kennedy’s funeral; I shouldn’t remember, I was not even three years old yet, but I do.  A few years ago when I was home visiting, I saw they were tearing that house down.  I took a few pictures of what was left; much preferring now to rely on memories.   




We moved to the 2nd Street house when I was in grade school; perhaps 4th or 5th grade?  It was a step up in our book; a large two story home that was once a single family house and then later there were apartments put in upstairs.  The house was old and in need of updating; something my dad had neither the skills or money to do.  I can’t imagine what it cost them to heat that house.  Mom was very thrifty, turning down the heat at night and harping at us to turn out the lights when not using them, now a good habit I still have today. 


I bet you didn’t know under that live oak
My favorite dog is buried in the yard




I tried to find a picture of the entire house, but couldn’t.  Some exist but not in the albums I have here.  In this picture, you can see some of the porch of the house.  I smiled as I look at the flowers that mom and I would plant every year.  Always annuals and mostly zinnias and marigolds, all planted from seed. 


You leave home and you move on and you do the best you can
I got lost in this old world and forgot who I am


After we left, Mom and Dad moved into a duplex that they inherited from a gentleman they cared for.  John and I worked many weekends renovating it into a single family home.  It was easy for them to care for and they were comfortable.


The house on 2nd Street was sold very cheap.  If I remember right, my parents let the new owners make payments on what was probably a $3,000 sale.  Yes, that is the right amount of zeros.  This is a very small town with about every business that was offering jobs, folding up.  In reality, the house probably should have been sold for salvage (beautiful woodwork and doors) and then torn down.


christmas superior 192


It’s been close to 25 years since my parents sold this house and I mourn what has become of it over the years.  While it was clearly a “fixer upper” when we were living there, I can’t imagine what it is like inside today.  Driving by the 2nd Street house this past weekend, I almost hated to take this picture.  This angle showed it at it best.  Another shot showed the side and back yards littered with car bodies and old appliances.  Where we once had a beautifully  manicured pet cemetery, it now resembled the house of a hoarder. 


I know they say you can’t go home again




  1. that must have been a happy but sad trip at the same time, thanks for sharing it with us!

  2. Sometimes best not to revisit old memories.Then again?

  3. We must be pretty much the same age. 52 next month - wow! My dad's been gone for 18 years next month and my mom died Dec. 16, either 6 or 7 years ago...I'm losing track. It still hurts and I miss them both every day. Memories can be comforting, but at times it's best to let some just fade away. Big hugs to you, and best wishes. It sounds like you had a wonderful and loving family and childhood. That's what does matter. :)

  4. I just realized I'm turning 53 next month. Holy crap!!!

  5. As sad as some of these images seems, it feels like you have some really beautiful memories of your home. This was a wonderfully written blog to them all.


I am so glad you stopped by and look forward to hearing from you! Do come again.